I acknowledge that I never, ever initiate playdates, and I truly hope none of my friends think I'm rude or don't really want to hang out b/c of it!!! If you invite us over, we would LOVE to come; but I really just have a playdate block when it comes to scheduling any, myself. Both kids now are in school and entertained this year every morning Monday-Friday; when they get home, they are content playing together whenever we're not running errands.
[Sidebar: I *LOVELOVELOVE* running errands! And I LOVE taking the kids with me! I have always purposely waited to do errands until they are with me. (If I have free time, I want to spend it watching not-child-friendly TiVo or online! Not doing stuff I can do WITH them!!!) But apparently I am not normal, and most moms loathe running errands with their kids. They see it as a hassle, but I see it as free entertainment, where we can be out & about and even shop with a purpose! It's FUN!!! And no, I don't think I'm insane. (On this point, anyway.)]
So when my kids are so entertained with school, errands, and then themselves, it's just never on my mind to schedule anything else. They see their friends at school. They see church friends on Sundays and dance friends on Fridays. It's just not on my radar to add anything else to the calendar.
NOT saying that we don't enjoy getting together with friends, b/c I LOVE it!!!
But the other part is, I don't really ever want to hang out at my house. If I'm home, I want to get my own stuff done. If I want to socialize, I want us to go somewhere fun & *do* something! But that always seems to be more of a hassle, b/c most of my friends are still juggling nap schedules (Hahaha! WTH are those???) around 2 PM, which is right when we're raring to go after school. I always enjoy hanging out at other people's homes for playdates, but then I feel guilty b/c I never invite anyone over here. But, we were at their house, b/c it made naptime easier for them, and that's totally awesome with me! I still feel guilty, though, that I don't really ever reciprocate; but I don't want to hang out at my house! I want to run around; but that doesn't usually fit into their schedules, so...
It's a vicious circle. :-P In the end, it just seems like more of a PITA than it's worth. Is that bad? I guess I just feel a bit disconnected from "normal" at this age, b/c none of my other friends have their 3-year-olds in preschool 5 days a week (it's a Montessori thing & we have LOVED it - both kids & me!!!) so my friends still need something more those other days. We don't. ...But I admit, it does make me feel a little weird to read about this playdate or that playdate on FB and think, "Maybe I'm missing out a little on that connection time with my girlfriends?"
...Eh, in reality, for the most part probably not. It takes 3 hours to have a 5 minute conversation when you're wrangling kids on a playdate! That is why, even with both kids in school now, MOPS is still *such* a huge priority in my life! It's not about the kids at all - it's about quality, uninterrupted, kid-free time for moms to actually talk & connect! :-)
BTW - all this anti-playdate-ism only applies during the school year. Summer is a whole different story! The key factor in playdates not being important to us is that the kids are entertained with school. After that's over, not only do we NEED to schedule stuff to do, but it's also not nearly as big of a hassle, b/c we're actually available in the mornings, unlike now where we only have an afternoon window.
And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. - Romans 5:5
IN YOU, O Lord, do I put my trust and seek refuge; let me never be put to shame or [have my hope in You] disappointed; deliver me in Your righteousness! - Psalm 31:1
Hope in God and wait expectantly for Him, for I shall yet praise Him, my Help and my God - Psalm 42:5b